My Training Rules for Submissives & Babygirls

The purpose of this article is to illustrate how a Dom or Master would translate long-term training goals (mental and sexual conditioning) into daily/weekly activities of a submissive. A submissive follows all these rules to prepare herself for a session and/or to please her Master. I should be clear that this type of psychological training is for long-term committed relationships (i.e. Master/slave) or ongoing long-term Dom/subs rather than casual or occasional BDSM play partners . The nuance of BDSM terminology is important to understand that a “submissive” is a woman of free will who gives over control of her body for a period of time to a Dom and a “slave” is a woman of free will who chooses to give over control over her body, mind and soul for 24/7 to serve her Master.

My forte within Sensual Domination (no or little pain Domination) is contrasting Caressing, Sensual Oil Massage, Sensual Kissing, Orgasm Denial, Forced Multiple Orgasms, Forced Squirting and Impact Play (spanking, flogging, cane). I choose to use both Sensual Domination techniques along with the impact play techniques of Sadism to heighten the sexual response of a sub. I use an Extreme Pleasure technique for Domination by which I overwhelm a woman with sensory stimulation and multi-orgasmic pleasure to overload the nervous system and to triggers mind-blowing sexual release. This article is about how subs prepare themselves during their daily routine at home and at work for Domination sessions with me.

My training objectives for my submissive/babygirl is to make her an extremely sexually responsive woman who is multi-orgasmic and a multi-squirter. My second training objective is to be on her mind throughout her day, wherever she may be so she feels constantly possessed and consumer by me. My ultimate objective is to train a sub to achieve Cum-on-Command via a visual signal, verbal command or via text message to her mobile, to achieve an instant orgasm without any physical sexual contact.

Daily Routine:

- Before leaving her home every day, she must be wearing an item of ownership (necklace, bracelet, anklet, choker, or ring) that reminds her constantly of Master. The item must be worn in plain sight in public for other to see.

- Before leaving for work in the morning, she must text me a photo of her outfit. This is not to control her wardrobe in anyway but to be able to compliment her on how sexy and beautiful she looks at the beginning of her day. Every morning she receives a text at 7AM wishing her good morning and every night at 11PM she receives a text wishing her sweet dreams.

- At lunch, she must perform 100 Kegel exercises at her desk then text me about her day.

- Every day after work, when she changes out of her work clothes, she must insert the Ben Wa balls into her pussy and wear them until bedtime. She must wear the ben wa balls for all social, exercise, yoga or work out activities.

- Every night before bedtime, BabyGirl must masturbate until she cums 3-5 times.

- Whenever BabyGirl masturbates, she must first insert a butt plug in her ass, insert Ben Wa balls into her pussy and wear nipples clamps (with bells) on her breasts. (All sex toys provided by Master)

Weekly Events & Special Occasions:

- Thursdays are “Naked Chef Night”. BabyGirl will prepare dinner wearing only one of Master’s white dress shirt, thigh-high black stockings and 4-5″ high heels or boots. Master will be greeted with a glass of red wine and a 3-minute kiss.

- Fridays are “I’m Master’s Dirty Slut @Work” day which means she must masturbate in the washroom at work after lunch then insert the Ben Wa balls in her pussy for the remainder of the day. She must text a photo of her masturbating at work as proof.

- BabyGirl must always wear a wirelessly controlled We-Vibe vibrator in her pussy to all public social functions (family events, work events, social events with friends, dinners out, orchestra/theater, charity galas, movie theaters, sporting events, etc). Before leaving for an event, - - BabyGirl will kneel in the living room to present the remote controller to Master and then present her naked pussy with the We-Vibe inserted in her pussy for inspection by Master while lying in the dining table.

Preparations for a Domination Session:

- BabyGirl is NOT allowed to touch or pleasure herself in any way for 3 days before we meet in person.

- Within 72 hours before BabyGirl will see Master, she will go to the spa for a facial, mani/pedi, massage and waxing. (All expenses covered by Master)

- On the day that BabyGirl will see Master, she will insert the Ben Wa balls into her pussy at work at noon then wear them until we meet in person after work.

- 1-4 hours prior to meeting, BabyGirl will prepare herself for anal sex (Evacuation, multiple enemas to douche, then insertion of jeweled anal butt plug.).

- BabyGirl will always meet Master in public with a wireless vibe inserted in her pussy and her jeweled butt plug in her ass.

- Before meeting Master, BabyGirl will always insert two fingers deep into her pussy then spread her plentiful juices onto her lips to greet Master with a passionate kiss.

Standards of Behavior:

- BabyGirl will always refer to Master as Sir, or Master in private

- BabyGirl is not allowed to wear bras or panties at in room with Master (without children or family around).

- BabyGirl must always greet Master in public in a short skirt or dress with stockings & sneakers or high heels.

- BabyGirl must always greet Master wearing red lip gloss, french nails, red toes, sparkling jewelry (earrings, bracelet, choker), and a silk ribbon in her hair.

Sensual Rituals as a Kinky Couple ( for every session):

- Before every session, Master and BabyGirl will shower or bathe together to reconnect emotionally as a couple and to symbolically prepare ourselves for each other.

- Before every session, scented candles will be lit to provide soft lighting and music will be selected to set the appropriate ambiance for the session (sensual or pounding or both).

- Before every session, BabyGirl will present herself to Master completely naked, with only her high heels on.

- Master will then slowly apply lotion or massage oils to every inch of BabyGirl’s body so every nerve ending in her body is aroused and her body feels soft and sensual to touch. After each limb is massaged with lotion or oils, Master will attach a restraint to each wrist or ankle. The final step is where BabyGirl stands naked in front of Master then he slowly kisses his way up her neck then whispers in her ear what he has planned for her during the session then places his collar and leash on her neck.

After every session when BabyGirl is completely exhausted and her body is spasming from intense orgasms, Master will hold and caress her trembling body until she recovers. (Refer to Sensual AfterCare)

After BabyGirl recovers from the session, she will clean Master and BabyGirl’s bodies with a warm wet towels then feed Daddy (fruits, cheeses, charcuterie, water or wine).

Rules for Sharing BabyGirl with others:

Unfortunately, I DO NOT SHARE. But for those that share, here are the steps. 

When being shared with others (men, women or couples), BabyGirl with ALWAYS be wearing Master’s collar with bell, leash and his jeweled anal butt plug in her ass. This is to symbolize that BabyGirl is always owned by Master even when she is being fucked by others.

- BabyGirl will not kiss other men on the mouth. That intimate act is exclusively reserved for Master. However, BabyGirl may kiss any woman she desires in public or in private, with or without Master’s presence.

- BabyGirl will not have anal sex with other men or women. That intimate act is exclusively reserved for Master.

When BabyGirl is being shared with other men, Master will always be present to keep her physically safe, to ensure her emotional safety and to encourage her sluttiest behaviour.

When BabyGirl is being shared with women, Master only needs to be informed of BabyGirl’s plans in advance and then all the details of her sexual encounter are to be shared with Daddy upon returning home.

Five Questions Every Dom Should Ask A Submissive

Five Questions Every Dom Should Ask A Submissive

The most important role a Sensual Dominant plays is to ensure the mental and physical safety of a submissive, especially of a novice submissive who has no clue what will happen during her first sessions. The second key role a Sensual Dom plays is to understand the key physical, sexual and psychological triggers that will unleash her sexually. The following 5 questions establishes the boundaries of the safe play and also uncover some key sexual and psychological triggers for helping a submissive reach the next level of sexual response.

1) What are your BDSM hard limits? (Scat, urine, golden showers, needles/knives/fire, medical play, verbal or physical humiliation, caging, severe pain, children/animals, etc.). This establishes the current comfort limits of play for a sub. These limits will soften and change with time, trust/familiarity with a Dom and with BDSM experience for every sub. Crossing these limits without prior discussion with a sub is a serious break from protocol for safe consensual play, a serious betrayal of a submissive’s trust and it may trigger a panic attack within the submissive.

2) What BDSM acts do you deeply want to try and why? (i.e. sensual touching, bondage, blindfold, spanking, hair pulling, paddling/flogging, forced orgasms, forced squirting, orgasm denial, anal, rough sex, fisting, hot wax, etc). The specific acts are not important. What is important to understand the why someone craves these specific experiences and how those experiences make a sub feel.

3) What bondage/submission fantasies/roleplay do you desire? (boss & secretary, naughty schoolgirl & teacher, policeman & hooker, home invasion/rape, multiple men/gangbang, naked and blindfolded in a group of men, etc. ). The specific fantasies a sub desires tells us a great deal about the underlying scenarios and themes that arousal a sub (attraction to authority figures with power, a good girl forced to do bad acts, a loss of control, sensory deprivation, being sexually forced, sex with strangers, sex with many men, sex in foreign environments or public, etc). These themes can be easily integrated into domination scenes a Dom designs for a specific sub.

4) What sexual/foreplay acts arouses you MOST intensely? (Kissing your neck, massages, soft sensual kissing, giving oral sex, forced deepthroat, hair pulling, hand on your throat, etc.). This should uncover specific “Sexual Hot Buttons” for a submissive that highly arouse her. Giving oral sex or being forced to perform deepthroat tend to be very common sexual turn-ons for submissives. These are hot buttons a Dom wants to use to push a submissive to the next level of arousal during a session or to start a session to put her into a slutty submissive mindset.

5) What key words that trigger your arousal or submissive response? Word phrases such as “You are my slut”, “Who’s my whore?”, “Who owns this ass?”, and “Suck my cock whore” all have power sexual messages of ownership and control when said in the proper context and are spoken by the appropriate man to a submissive. These are powerful “Psychological Hot Buttons” and sexual arousal triggers that can place a woman instantly into a slutty submissive mindset. Knowing which phrases specifically arouse a submissive psychologically is key to push a sub to the next level of arousal during a session. 

Choosing the Right Dominant for Yourself

Homework for Subs

Homework for the Novice Submissive: Choosing the Right Dominant for Yourself

By definition, a submissive is a person of free will who, of their own volition, chooses to give over control of their body, mind and soul to a Dominant to be trained.

You need to understand that you are putting your entire physical and emotional safety into the hands of a Dom so this decision requires much more trust than ANY vanilla sex partner you have ever had! The key point being a submissive chooses their own Dom… so choose wisely.

Here are a few things you need to think about in developing a selection criterion BEFORE approaching any Dom:

- How to you feel about receiving pain? Do you like the idea? Why do you think you would enjoy it?

- Do you want to be with someone who would take pleasure in hurting you either mentally or physically or both?

- What is your pain tolerance? Where do you fit on the pain tolerance scale (masochist to wimpy)?

- What types of emotional experiences do you want from BDSM? Sensual/Erotic or Emotionally Sadistic or a mix of both

- Do you have specific scenarios/fantasies you crave to live out? (Role-play – Naughty Schoolgirl/Sexy Secretary, threesomes (MMF/FFM), Gangbangs, Abduction/Rape, Home Invader/Rape, etc.)

What are the fetishes you are interested in exploring now? (Make an online list that can be easily updated over time that links to your sub profile using Fetlife “Fetishes” tab – under the “more” banner at the top)

What are the fetishes you may be interested in exploring in the future? (make a list using Fetlife “Fetishes” tab)

What are your hard limits (anal, Gangbangs, humiliation, sensory deprivation, blood/needles, choking, severe pain, pee, scat, animals, knife play, medical play etc.) – make a list or post it as part of your profile

- What personality and physical traits are you looking for in a Dom? (Self-confident, Domineering/Controlling, Inspires trust and confidence, Integrity/Truthfulness, Mentoring/Educating, Intelligence, Muscular, Tattoos, Piercings, etc.)

- How important is his prior experience in your fetishes of interest?

- How much experience do you want a Dom to have? Novice, two, five, ten, twenty years?

- How was he trained as a Dom? (Online, Under a Master, Experience)

- Is Aftercare important to you and do you need a Dom who offers aftercare? What kind of Aftercare do you want/need and don’t want? )

- Do you want to be his only sub (exclusive) or are you open to be trained with other subs (polyamory)?

- Would you consider a Married Dom if you are single and unattached?

- Do you want to check his references (i.e. past subs)?

- Do you want to try a few trial play sessions before making a decision about committing to become his sub?

- Would you be willing to relocate or have a long-distance relationship for the right Dom ?

This is by no means an exhaustive list of things to consider when selecting an appropriate Dom but it should be a decent start.

I hope this helps give you a few ideas and this helps you find a Dom who is a good fit for you

~DominantSoul