Rules and Guidelines for non-staying submissive.

 Sometimes, the Dominant and submissive doesn't stay together. In some Asian countries, it is common and we are more accustomed to being far apart but we have the desire to keep in touch thru now, the Information Technology that is so advanced with smart-phone messaging, video calls. Of course, an occasional meet up is the utmost important in the D/s relationship. So, some tasks are best when both of these individuals meet and have a wonderful time together. I have come up with some Rules and Guidelines over some aspect of daily life that we should keep our submissive in check. There are others and more intense or better guidelines out on the internet. I am only putting some of these tasks and share with you. If you have other ideas as well, do let me know : 

Here are some things in no particular order. That you need to follow and do the best
you can to please your master. Some may just be a simple self-discipline behavior to
learn self control. In this list will include some tasks that are deemed sexually aroused by
your Master for you to perform. This is usually done when both of you are together in
person. However, if your Master is not present, you will have to snapshot or video record
and submit to your Master for approval. NOTE : All photos and videos submitted will not
be allowed to be shared publicly by both parties.
DAILY RULES:

1. Must use “Master”, Sir” at all times. (e.g. Thank you Master, Yes Sir, ok Master)

2. No vulgar words of any kind during your conversation with your Master. (e.g.

fuck, dang, shit) ** Unless it's during a role playing sex play.

a. When not with your Master and is messaging him on the app, no need to

type out vulgar words for your Master to read.

3. Every day, when you wake up, your Master would like a “Good Morning Master”

4. You will ask your Master’s permission when you want to masturbate.

a. You will also ask your Master’s permission on when you can cum when

you’re about to reach the height of cumming.

5. You will watch what you eat and have a healthy diet.

a. You will slim down to a sexier body to please your Master and as you said

you are willing to wear a latex thigh skirt to perform a catwalk at a public

place under instructions from your Master.

6. Your Master wants you to write (using a marker that is non-toxic) his title “Master

Dean” on some part of your body every week (or when the ink fades).

a. The Master will want to know where you wrote his name. Each time,

should be a different part of the body. You can repeat at the same place

after the 5th time)

b. A photo will be sent to your Master. The photo needs to include the whole

area of your body. Not just the part of the writing. (not a timer photo)

c. Colors of bra and panty are to be included in the message.

WEEKLY RULES & TASKS

1. Your Master wants you to dress up on every occasion that you go out with your

friends or family. And a full body photo will be sent to your Master. (not a timer

photo)

2. Once a week you will wear your pink panties+bra set.

d. If the pink set is not clean, the white or black set is ok, if none of them are

clean it is time to go commando (usually no bra+panties. But can be

applicable to no panties only) again! Even if you have already done so

once that week.

e. Not applicable if it’s the time of the month.

3. Once a week you will go commando (usually no bra+panties. But can be

applicable to no panties only)

a. Not applicable if it’s the time of the month

4. If your Master asks you to go commando (usually no bra+panties. But can be

applicable to no panties only) you will do that and that will count as your once a

week.

5. You will need to inform your Master when the time of the month starts and when

it ends. (an app will be used to keep track)

WHEN / MEETING UP WITH MASTER

1. You are required not to masturbate a day before you meet your Master.

2. Your Master will require you take off your panties before meeting with him. You

cannot bring along your panties. Your panties should be placed in your office.

Failure to do so, will result in your panties being confiscated on the spot.

3. No messaging on any of the messenger apps while meeting with your Master.

Unless it is urgent and needs to be replied to. Let your Master know the reason

that you need to reply.

4. No messaging on any of the messenger apps while in the car with your Master.

Unless it is urgent and needs to be replied to. Let your Master know the reason

that you need to reply.

5. You can be forced to flash your pussy (when you’re not wearing panties and in a

skirt or dress. Your Master will pretend to pick up something that is dropped under

the table)

6. You are required to masturbate in your panties and continue wearing them,

disregarding any spots that may appear.

7. Traveling by car naked or dressed in lingerie or a set. (when at longer distance

travel only covered with a shawl if the traffic is heavy)

8. Doing some of the “hidden” little things like plugs, nipple tape, nipple clamps.

9. Wearing a vibrator, with the controls in your master's pocket.

10. You can be forced to take your panties off at any time, return to the table (at

restaurant, cafe, park) and hand them to him.

11. You can be forced to masturbate beneath the table cloth while at a restaurant

or when in the car.

12. You can be forced to flash your nipples when no one seems to be looking at any

time anywhere.

Revised: 19 Dec 2020

Some Daily Rules and Routines for the Submissive

When you’re working full time, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances their full-time employment with their submissive role, one of their most concerns will always be finding a way to please their dominant while maintaining a strong professional image outside of the home. Regardless, it was difficult to find any information about balancing a professional life with the submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the business world.

Researching through the internet for ideas of rules to give a submissive, but in the end, it seemed that a lot of rules found were for 24/7 slaves or submissive, and this was neither realistic nor something ready to commit to without some serious consideration and reflection on whether or not visible to enjoy submitting on a smaller scale. After a lot of consideration, I have incorporated them into this article so that you can see how, although intimate, these rules aren’t obtrusive or overbearing. They are copied and pasted directly from the article found. So they’re written as such:

• Once a week you will go commando.
• Not applicable if the time of the month
• If Master ask you to go commando you will do and that will count as your once a week.
  • Once a week you will wear your red panty/bra set.
    • If the red set is not clean, the tan or pink set is ok, if none of them are clean time to go commando again! Even if you have already done so once that week.
• Not applicable if the time of the month.
• Master wants you to write his name on some part of your body every day.
• Every day, when I wake up I would like an message telling me what you are going to wear that day and the name placement. Undergarments are to be included.

NO toys/brush without permission. (Hands are ok).

As mentioned, the nice thing about the rule-set was that it allowed a lot of leeway on whether or not submissive would be happy following the instructions. It also consisted of rules that it would follow on the days that at work as well as the days that at home.

Collar and Jewelry:

• I will wear my collar or something (dominant to give submissive an item) to be worn every day.
• I will adhere to any preference the Master have regarding which collar I am allowed to wear and for how long I may wear it each day.
• When we are together, I will ask the Master to put my collar on and to take it off for me.

I will adhere to any preferences that the Master have regarding the jewelry I wear.

Clothing:

• Each night, I will ask the Master if you have any preferences regarding my clothing for the next day; I will follow the instructions that you give me.
  • Condition 1. In the event that requested garments (i.e. panties, bras, socks, etc.) are dirty, I must default to condition 2a of my old set of rules which states that I must forego wearing any article of clothing in place of the one assigned.
• Condition 2. In the event that you have made a request for me to wear something that is not appropriate for work, I will make arrangements to wear one work-appropriate outfit during the day and change into the requested outfit during the evening.
• You may deny permission to wear any item I have selected, in which case, I must change my clothing, or I just skip the item.
• When we are together, I will ask you to approve of or pick out the clothing I have planned to wear for the next day.
• During the first three days of my cycle, I am to wear something comfortable.

During the day, if I wish to change clothing or take an item off, I must ask permission to do so.

Grooming/Hygiene:

• I will adhere to any preference you might have regarding whether I shower or take a bath.
• I will adhere to any preference you might have regarding whether I bathe/shower at night or in the morning.
• I will also adhere to any preference you have to which body lotion or perfume I use after I bathe/shower.

I will ask you if you have any preferences regarding what color I paint my nails before I paint them.

Daily Tasks:

• Each morning, I will write your name somewhere on my body
• Condition 1. If we are together, I will let you write your name on my body each morning.
• Each evening, I must write an e-mail to you describing in detail everything that I plan to wear the following day. This e-mail must include undergarments, my outfit, jewelry, perfume, and the location of the place I have chosen to write your name for that day, even if you assigned the items to me.
  • I will join you for a cup of tea when you ask.
• Condition 1. If I am at work and not able to make a cup of tea, I will make tea as soon as I can.
  • I will perform any other tasks given to me either the night prior to or throughout the day.
    • Condition 1. If I am unable to do the task due to location, I may request to postpone the task until I am in a location where performing the task is appropriate.
    • Condition 2. If I feel unable to perform the task due to lack of privacy, I may request to postpone the task until I have the privacy required to correctly perform the given task.

Condition 3. In the event that the task is sexual in nature and I am on my period, I may request to postpone the task until such time that I am comfortable performing it.

Playing:

• I must ask permission each time I wish to masturbate.
• I must also ask permission to orgasm.
• I must follow any instructions that you give me regarding what I am allowed to use, how long I am allowed to use it, etc. when I masturbate.
• If I am given instructions regarding masturbation prior to asking, I must follow those instructions to the best of my ability. See conditions Daily Tasks 4 sub(1-3).
• I must include an account of my play, including how long, in my nightly e-mail to you. See rule Daily Tasks 2.

If I wish to buy a new toy, I will make arrangements to sit down with you so that we can pick one out together.

This article was taken somewhere else and is written by an online submissive.

Sample Consensual "Slavery" Contract

 NOTE: It should go without saying that a "contract" such as this is not legally binding. Documents such as these are intended only to provide a fantasy environment for extended role-playing or to establish a D/s or M/s relationship. They are also not obligatory and one should not expect to have to sign a contract to enter into a D/s relationship. This is tool for communication.

1.0.0 Slave's Role

The slave agrees to submit completely to the master in all ways. There are no boundaries of place, time, or situation in which the slave may willfully refuse to obey the directive of the master without risking punishment, except in situations where the slave's veto (see section 1.0.1) applies. The slave also agrees that, once entered into the Slavery Contract, their body belongs to their master ,, to be used as seen fit, within the guidelines defined herein. All of the slave's possessions likewise belong to the master , including all assets, finances, and material goods, to do with as they see fit. The slave agrees to please the master to the best of their ability, in that they now exist solely for the pleasure of said master .

1.0.1 Slave's Veto

The slave, where appropriate, holds veto power over any command given by the master , at which time they may rightfully refuse to obey that command. This power may only be invoked under the following circumstances, or where agreed by both master and slave:

1. Where said command conflicts with any existing laws and may lead to fines, arrest, or prosecution of the slave .
2. Where said command may cause extreme damage to slave's life, such as losing their job, causing family stress, etc.
3. Where said command may cause permanent bodily harm (see 4.0.0) to the slave .
4. Where said command may cause psychological trauma to the slave, such as a rape scene for a slave that has been raped in the past.

2.0.0 Master's Role

The master accepts the responsibility of the slave's body and worldly possessions, to do with as they see fit, under the provisions determined in this contract. The master agrees to care for the slave , to arrange for the safety and well-being o f the slave , as long as they own the slave . The master also accepts the commitment to treat the slave properly, to train the slave, punish the slave, love the slave, and use the slave as they see fit.

3.0.0 Punishment

The slave agrees to accept any punishment the master decides to inflict, whether earned or not.

3.0.1 Rules of Punishment

Punishment of the slave is subject to certain rules designed to protect the slave from intentional abuse or permanent bodily harm (see 4.0.0). Punishment must not incur permanent bodily harm, or the following forms of abuse:

1. Blood may not be drawn at any time. Punishment must stop immediately if blood is drawn
2. Burning the body
3. Drastic loss of circulation
4. Causing internal bleeding
5. Loss of consciousness
6. Withholding of any necessary materials, such as food, water, or sunlight for extended periods of time

4.0.0 Permanent Bodily Harm

Since the body of the slave now belongs to the master , it is the master's responsibility to protect that body from permanent bodily harm. Should the slave ever come to permanent bodily harm during the course of punishment or in any other slavery related activity, whether by intention or accident, it will be grounds for immediate termination of this contract, should the slave so desire. Permanent bodily harm shall be determined as:

1. Death
2. Any damage that involves loss of mobility or function, including broken bones.
3. Any permanent marks on the skin, including scars, burns, or tattoos, unless accepted by the slave .
4. Any loss of hair, unless accepted by the slave .
5. Any piercing of the flesh which leaves a permanent hole, unless accepted by the slave .
6. Any diseases that could result in any of the above results, including sexually transmitted diseases.

5.0.0 Others

The slave may not seek any other master or lover or relate to others in any sexual or submissive way without the master's permission. To do so will be considered a breach of contract, and will result in extreme punishment. The master may accept other slaves or lovers, but must consider the slave's emotional response to such actions and act accordingly. Under no circumstance should the master allow such actions to unbalance the slave emotionally, or allow such actions to result in ignoring the slave .

The master may give the slave to other masters, provided the rules of this contract are upheld. In such a situation, the master will inform the new master of the provisions stated herein, and any breach by the new master will be considered a breach by the master as well, subject to all rules stated in this contract.

6.0.0 Secrecy

All physical evidence of the slavery will be kept in total secrecy, except where both master and slave agree. Any violation of this clause shall be cause to terminate this contract, should the injured party wish it. The materials and physical evidence shall be kept under lock and key in a place acceptable to both parties.

7.0.0 Alteration of Contract

This contract may not be altered, except when both master and slave agree. If the contract is altered, the new contract shall be printed and signed, and then the old contract must be destroyed.

8.0.0 Termination of Contract

This contract may be terminated at any time by the master , but never by the slave, except under special conditions explained within this contract. Upon termination, all physical evidence of the slavery, including this contract, will be destroyed, and all materials and belongings shall belong to the master , to be shared or kept as they see fit. The slave , owning nothing and having agreed to give up all worldly possessions and body to the master , shall once again own their body, but nothing else, unless the master decides to give back their possessions.

9.0.0 Slave's Signature

I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to give everything I own to my master, and further accept their claim of ownership over my physical body. I understand tha I will be commanded and trained and punished as a slave, and I promise to be true and to fulfill the pleasures and desires of my master to the best of my abilities. I understand that I cannot withdraw from this contract except as stated in this contract.

Signature:____________

9.0.1 Master's Signature

I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to accept this slave as my property, body and possessions, and to care for them to the best of my ability. I shall provide for their security and well-being and command them, train them, and punish them as a slave. I understand the responsibility implicit in this arrangement, and agree that no harm shall come to the slave as long as they are mine. I further understand that I can withdraw from this contract at any time.

Signature:____________

Sample Dominant/submissive Contract (sample one)

 Dominant/submissive Contract

This contract contains the elements of a D/s staying together. However, it is also applicable for those that is having a Long Distance Relationship or is not staying together. The context text is denoted with strike-through font.

My Training Rules for Submissives & Babygirls

The purpose of this article is to illustrate how a Dom or Master would translate long-term training goals (mental and sexual conditioning) into daily/weekly activities of a submissive. A submissive follows all these rules to prepare herself for a session and/or to please her Master. I should be clear that this type of psychological training is for long-term committed relationships (i.e. Master/slave) or ongoing long-term Dom/subs rather than casual or occasional BDSM play partners . The nuance of BDSM terminology is important to understand that a “submissive” is a woman of free will who gives over control of her body for a period of time to a Dom and a “slave” is a woman of free will who chooses to give over control over her body, mind and soul for 24/7 to serve her Master.

My forte within Sensual Domination (no or little pain Domination) is contrasting Caressing, Sensual Oil Massage, Sensual Kissing, Orgasm Denial, Forced Multiple Orgasms, Forced Squirting and Impact Play (spanking, flogging, cane). I choose to use both Sensual Domination techniques along with the impact play techniques of Sadism to heighten the sexual response of a sub. I use an Extreme Pleasure technique for Domination by which I overwhelm a woman with sensory stimulation and multi-orgasmic pleasure to overload the nervous system and to triggers mind-blowing sexual release. This article is about how subs prepare themselves during their daily routine at home and at work for Domination sessions with me.

My training objectives for my submissive/babygirl is to make her an extremely sexually responsive woman who is multi-orgasmic and a multi-squirter. My second training objective is to be on her mind throughout her day, wherever she may be so she feels constantly possessed and consumer by me. My ultimate objective is to train a sub to achieve Cum-on-Command via a visual signal, verbal command or via text message to her mobile, to achieve an instant orgasm without any physical sexual contact.

Daily Routine:

- Before leaving her home every day, she must be wearing an item of ownership (necklace, bracelet, anklet, choker, or ring) that reminds her constantly of Master. The item must be worn in plain sight in public for other to see.

- Before leaving for work in the morning, she must text me a photo of her outfit. This is not to control her wardrobe in anyway but to be able to compliment her on how sexy and beautiful she looks at the beginning of her day. Every morning she receives a text at 7AM wishing her good morning and every night at 11PM she receives a text wishing her sweet dreams.

- At lunch, she must perform 100 Kegel exercises at her desk then text me about her day.

- Every day after work, when she changes out of her work clothes, she must insert the Ben Wa balls into her pussy and wear them until bedtime. She must wear the ben wa balls for all social, exercise, yoga or work out activities.

- Every night before bedtime, BabyGirl must masturbate until she cums 3-5 times.

- Whenever BabyGirl masturbates, she must first insert a butt plug in her ass, insert Ben Wa balls into her pussy and wear nipples clamps (with bells) on her breasts. (All sex toys provided by Master)

Weekly Events & Special Occasions:

- Thursdays are “Naked Chef Night”. BabyGirl will prepare dinner wearing only one of Master’s white dress shirt, thigh-high black stockings and 4-5″ high heels or boots. Master will be greeted with a glass of red wine and a 3-minute kiss.

- Fridays are “I’m Master’s Dirty Slut @Work” day which means she must masturbate in the washroom at work after lunch then insert the Ben Wa balls in her pussy for the remainder of the day. She must text a photo of her masturbating at work as proof.

- BabyGirl must always wear a wirelessly controlled We-Vibe vibrator in her pussy to all public social functions (family events, work events, social events with friends, dinners out, orchestra/theater, charity galas, movie theaters, sporting events, etc). Before leaving for an event, - - BabyGirl will kneel in the living room to present the remote controller to Master and then present her naked pussy with the We-Vibe inserted in her pussy for inspection by Master while lying in the dining table.

Preparations for a Domination Session:

- BabyGirl is NOT allowed to touch or pleasure herself in any way for 3 days before we meet in person.

- Within 72 hours before BabyGirl will see Master, she will go to the spa for a facial, mani/pedi, massage and waxing. (All expenses covered by Master)

- On the day that BabyGirl will see Master, she will insert the Ben Wa balls into her pussy at work at noon then wear them until we meet in person after work.

- 1-4 hours prior to meeting, BabyGirl will prepare herself for anal sex (Evacuation, multiple enemas to douche, then insertion of jeweled anal butt plug.).

- BabyGirl will always meet Master in public with a wireless vibe inserted in her pussy and her jeweled butt plug in her ass.

- Before meeting Master, BabyGirl will always insert two fingers deep into her pussy then spread her plentiful juices onto her lips to greet Master with a passionate kiss.

Standards of Behavior:

- BabyGirl will always refer to Master as Sir, or Master in private

- BabyGirl is not allowed to wear bras or panties at in room with Master (without children or family around).

- BabyGirl must always greet Master in public in a short skirt or dress with stockings & sneakers or high heels.

- BabyGirl must always greet Master wearing red lip gloss, french nails, red toes, sparkling jewelry (earrings, bracelet, choker), and a silk ribbon in her hair.

Sensual Rituals as a Kinky Couple ( for every session):

- Before every session, Master and BabyGirl will shower or bathe together to reconnect emotionally as a couple and to symbolically prepare ourselves for each other.

- Before every session, scented candles will be lit to provide soft lighting and music will be selected to set the appropriate ambiance for the session (sensual or pounding or both).

- Before every session, BabyGirl will present herself to Master completely naked, with only her high heels on.

- Master will then slowly apply lotion or massage oils to every inch of BabyGirl’s body so every nerve ending in her body is aroused and her body feels soft and sensual to touch. After each limb is massaged with lotion or oils, Master will attach a restraint to each wrist or ankle. The final step is where BabyGirl stands naked in front of Master then he slowly kisses his way up her neck then whispers in her ear what he has planned for her during the session then places his collar and leash on her neck.

After every session when BabyGirl is completely exhausted and her body is spasming from intense orgasms, Master will hold and caress her trembling body until she recovers. (Refer to Sensual AfterCare)

After BabyGirl recovers from the session, she will clean Master and BabyGirl’s bodies with a warm wet towels then feed Daddy (fruits, cheeses, charcuterie, water or wine).

Rules for Sharing BabyGirl with others:

Unfortunately, I DO NOT SHARE. But for those that share, here are the steps. 

When being shared with others (men, women or couples), BabyGirl with ALWAYS be wearing Master’s collar with bell, leash and his jeweled anal butt plug in her ass. This is to symbolize that BabyGirl is always owned by Master even when she is being fucked by others.

- BabyGirl will not kiss other men on the mouth. That intimate act is exclusively reserved for Master. However, BabyGirl may kiss any woman she desires in public or in private, with or without Master’s presence.

- BabyGirl will not have anal sex with other men or women. That intimate act is exclusively reserved for Master.

When BabyGirl is being shared with other men, Master will always be present to keep her physically safe, to ensure her emotional safety and to encourage her sluttiest behaviour.

When BabyGirl is being shared with women, Master only needs to be informed of BabyGirl’s plans in advance and then all the details of her sexual encounter are to be shared with Daddy upon returning home.

Five Questions Every Dom Should Ask A Submissive

Five Questions Every Dom Should Ask A Submissive

The most important role a Sensual Dominant plays is to ensure the mental and physical safety of a submissive, especially of a novice submissive who has no clue what will happen during her first sessions. The second key role a Sensual Dom plays is to understand the key physical, sexual and psychological triggers that will unleash her sexually. The following 5 questions establishes the boundaries of the safe play and also uncover some key sexual and psychological triggers for helping a submissive reach the next level of sexual response.

1) What are your BDSM hard limits? (Scat, urine, golden showers, needles/knives/fire, medical play, verbal or physical humiliation, caging, severe pain, children/animals, etc.). This establishes the current comfort limits of play for a sub. These limits will soften and change with time, trust/familiarity with a Dom and with BDSM experience for every sub. Crossing these limits without prior discussion with a sub is a serious break from protocol for safe consensual play, a serious betrayal of a submissive’s trust and it may trigger a panic attack within the submissive.

2) What BDSM acts do you deeply want to try and why? (i.e. sensual touching, bondage, blindfold, spanking, hair pulling, paddling/flogging, forced orgasms, forced squirting, orgasm denial, anal, rough sex, fisting, hot wax, etc). The specific acts are not important. What is important to understand the why someone craves these specific experiences and how those experiences make a sub feel.

3) What bondage/submission fantasies/roleplay do you desire? (boss & secretary, naughty schoolgirl & teacher, policeman & hooker, home invasion/rape, multiple men/gangbang, naked and blindfolded in a group of men, etc. ). The specific fantasies a sub desires tells us a great deal about the underlying scenarios and themes that arousal a sub (attraction to authority figures with power, a good girl forced to do bad acts, a loss of control, sensory deprivation, being sexually forced, sex with strangers, sex with many men, sex in foreign environments or public, etc). These themes can be easily integrated into domination scenes a Dom designs for a specific sub.

4) What sexual/foreplay acts arouses you MOST intensely? (Kissing your neck, massages, soft sensual kissing, giving oral sex, forced deepthroat, hair pulling, hand on your throat, etc.). This should uncover specific “Sexual Hot Buttons” for a submissive that highly arouse her. Giving oral sex or being forced to perform deepthroat tend to be very common sexual turn-ons for submissives. These are hot buttons a Dom wants to use to push a submissive to the next level of arousal during a session or to start a session to put her into a slutty submissive mindset.

5) What key words that trigger your arousal or submissive response? Word phrases such as “You are my slut”, “Who’s my whore?”, “Who owns this ass?”, and “Suck my cock whore” all have power sexual messages of ownership and control when said in the proper context and are spoken by the appropriate man to a submissive. These are powerful “Psychological Hot Buttons” and sexual arousal triggers that can place a woman instantly into a slutty submissive mindset. Knowing which phrases specifically arouse a submissive psychologically is key to push a sub to the next level of arousal during a session. 

Choosing the Right Dominant for Yourself

Homework for Subs

Homework for the Novice Submissive: Choosing the Right Dominant for Yourself

By definition, a submissive is a person of free will who, of their own volition, chooses to give over control of their body, mind and soul to a Dominant to be trained.

You need to understand that you are putting your entire physical and emotional safety into the hands of a Dom so this decision requires much more trust than ANY vanilla sex partner you have ever had! The key point being a submissive chooses their own Dom… so choose wisely.

Here are a few things you need to think about in developing a selection criterion BEFORE approaching any Dom:

- How to you feel about receiving pain? Do you like the idea? Why do you think you would enjoy it?

- Do you want to be with someone who would take pleasure in hurting you either mentally or physically or both?

- What is your pain tolerance? Where do you fit on the pain tolerance scale (masochist to wimpy)?

- What types of emotional experiences do you want from BDSM? Sensual/Erotic or Emotionally Sadistic or a mix of both

- Do you have specific scenarios/fantasies you crave to live out? (Role-play – Naughty Schoolgirl/Sexy Secretary, threesomes (MMF/FFM), Gangbangs, Abduction/Rape, Home Invader/Rape, etc.)

What are the fetishes you are interested in exploring now? (Make an online list that can be easily updated over time that links to your sub profile using Fetlife “Fetishes” tab – under the “more” banner at the top)

What are the fetishes you may be interested in exploring in the future? (make a list using Fetlife “Fetishes” tab)

What are your hard limits (anal, Gangbangs, humiliation, sensory deprivation, blood/needles, choking, severe pain, pee, scat, animals, knife play, medical play etc.) – make a list or post it as part of your profile

- What personality and physical traits are you looking for in a Dom? (Self-confident, Domineering/Controlling, Inspires trust and confidence, Integrity/Truthfulness, Mentoring/Educating, Intelligence, Muscular, Tattoos, Piercings, etc.)

- How important is his prior experience in your fetishes of interest?

- How much experience do you want a Dom to have? Novice, two, five, ten, twenty years?

- How was he trained as a Dom? (Online, Under a Master, Experience)

- Is Aftercare important to you and do you need a Dom who offers aftercare? What kind of Aftercare do you want/need and don’t want? )

- Do you want to be his only sub (exclusive) or are you open to be trained with other subs (polyamory)?

- Would you consider a Married Dom if you are single and unattached?

- Do you want to check his references (i.e. past subs)?

- Do you want to try a few trial play sessions before making a decision about committing to become his sub?

- Would you be willing to relocate or have a long-distance relationship for the right Dom ?

This is by no means an exhaustive list of things to consider when selecting an appropriate Dom but it should be a decent start.

I hope this helps give you a few ideas and this helps you find a Dom who is a good fit for you

~DominantSoul