First Fetlife Encounter

[2016]

My first fetlife encounter. I spotted her on a location search. Message her first to add as friends. From there, we texted a few times and exchanged messenger contacts and kept contacting. 

She works as a sales promoter at an old shopping center at a small urban township in KL. We set up a date and time to meet. It was the weekend and tge only time to meet was during her lunch break at 4pm. So, I drove over to the shopping center. Its an old shopping center within an urban township surrounded with shoplots. Parking was easy as not many people visits the old shopping center, as its main focus was the supermarket. The underground car park was old and has dimmed lighting. First thought comes to my mind is this could be nice place for some discreet public car park action. 

So I parked the car and went into the shopping center, walked around while still txting her. She says it will take a few more minutes befoee she can take her break. So, I just do a walk by checking her out. She is small size around 5 feet 2, slim. Just finished highschool, doing part time work before furthering studies. 

We met outside of the supermarket but still within the shopping center. We talked a bit while she eats. I had a drink. When she finished, I told her that since Incam all the way, we should get closer and I suggested maybe a kiss some place around the corner. She let me to the far corner of the area near a service lift. And wanted to kiss me, I stopped her as I noticed a cctv cam right in front of the elevator doors. I quickly hold her and drag her to the emergency staircase behind the door. And we kissed. I got more daring, I unbutton her tshirt and grab hold of her boobs and gave her nipple a squeeze. She looked up and I can see that she likes what I was doing to her with her cheeky smile. We kissed  a few more times then stopped as her shift hours starts back. I said my goodbyes and promised to txt her more later and planned anothet meet up. 

It was probably 2 weeks later when I planned to meet up with her again. This time I set-up the stage for a more daring action. I asked her to faster finish up her eating earlier so we can spend more time. This time instead of emergency stairway, we went to my parked car instead since the carpark was very dim. We got into my car, straight to the backseat.  I already had my windows covered after parking my car and before seeing her. 

We kissed deeply and roughly as she says she like to be handled roughly. I gor more daring and unzip her pants, pull down her panties too and kissing her thigh then touch her pussy, its already wet and ready for my fingers. She automatically spread her legs apart, knowing and willingly consented me to finger her. Since she is petite in size, movements in the backsear was also easier. I was fingering her wet pussy deeply while she was giving me a blowjob. Her blowing was so good, I couldn't contain my horny feeling. I told her, "I'm so horny dear, let's do it now". She wasn't surprised but only said "just don't shoot in". I pull down my jeans all the way down to my ankles. And she did the wildest thing. She took off her pants, tshirt and bra.. she was like totally naked. She just keep reminding me "don't shot in, please". As I was going to fuck her pussy raw!  It felt so good coz her pusy was already all wet and warm. I was way too horny at that moment, I seldom cum so fast, but I guess she really did a good job as I could felt her pussy muscles clenching on my hardon as she goes up and down on my cock. I could really feel that I was going to shoot. I quickly pull out and tge ooze of my manhood gushes out like a mini fountain. She was so eager to suck my load off!  I actually wanted to continue fucking her but I think its a bad idea especially when I have already shot my load. And no rubber with me or in the car in sight. She puts on her clothes and says our goodbyes. 

The Classified Encounter

[2017]

I posted an ad at a local classified website looking for discreet relationship. I received a reply with a phone number seeking interest to my personal ad. We then started conversing on WhatsApp and later setting a meet up around the following week. 

We met up at starbucks in a shopping mall which is to her convenience as she is not familiar with the roads. She is Ukrainian nationality but married to a British expat working here.  We talked a bit over coffee about what she likes and if she likes me or not. We ended the meet up after over an hour. I escorted her back to her car, and we kissed with tongue. Promising to continue our intimate chats over WhatsApp further. 

Our next meet up, well her navigation was still not too good so, I found a half abandon shopping mall where the carpark was upper level and seems to have some floors with not many cars parked. I set the mood with her to try some car park scene. She was eager to try out the experience. So the day came, I drove earlier to the place to check out the area and where I should park my car. When the time comes, she parked next to my car and jumped into my car. My windows are a little more tinted than her car. So, that's the obvious choice. As she jumps in wearing a yellow dress with sunflower spots, she told me she was wearing knickers shorts. I immediately instructed her to remove them as where we're going, she won't need to have them on. I drove up further a few levels where only one or two cars parked. I make sure to park facing the wall. Turned off the engine and set up additional window covers on the side doors. I gesture her to crawl to the back seat. I entered the back seat as well and that's where the excitement starts. 

We kissed first as usual. Her kiss was aggressive yet tender.  She was pretty horny as she first reached out immediately to unfasten my belt and pants. I was already having a hard on since when she arrived and jumping into my car seat. And she was already helping herself as her hands was touching and masaaging my manhood when I started driving up to find the good spot to park the car. 

She was like so hungry giving me a fantastic blowjob. I couldn't contain and almost about to explode. She was on fours on the backseat, so I reached out and pull her dress up. Give her ass a spank and she squeal under her throat while she was giving me the blow. I reached further and noticed that she was already really wet. I lifted her head up and told her that I won't shoot my load until she at least cum more than twice. She was gasping for air and I planted my lips on hers as if to make her hold her breath more. I have her sit her righ leg on my left thigh, legs spread, I began to spank her thigh near her pussy. She gasp loudly almost moaning. I start to finger her pussy.. and there goes in my 2 fingers. She likes it a lot and sort of hold onto my hand as if guiding my hands to shove in my fingers deeper into her wet hot pussy. I slap her pussy as if I was fucking her. Well, literally,  I was finger fucking her. She loves it so much, she keeps repeating the words "oh fuck yes.. yes.. yes.. don't stop". 

I felt some hot gushing on my hands after a while, she was still grabbing on my hand like pulling it and holding my 2 fingers deeply inside her. She was also gasping and panting heavily. So, I had to ask.. "you cum?". She whispered between her breathing,  "yes three times already. I hold on to not squirting. I was afraid to wet all over your seat. But then third time, I just couldn't hold it". She explained that it was like a pee feeling and can control. But probably her third cum, she just couldn't hold it and let it all out. I said it was ok. I can have it cleaned up later. She pull out my fingers and licked them. It turned me really on I had to kiss her. Our lips lock again. I grabbed her by the neck and intensified the kiss deeper. I didn't get to lick and nibble on her nipples though as her dress top, well, you can say that I would have to take off her dress to do that. 

A few cars have passed by while we were in action. I notice it during the finger fucking session. So, we had to cut short the session. It seems like it was the same car that keeps passing by. I was half satisfied but knowing she had a fantastic cumming time. I too was also satisfied in that sense. Maybe I will get more action in my next session. 

My First Time Sex Adventure - Part One

It was almost the end of my college days. Just finished the final exams, and I’m stuck at home for a few weeks. Not planning to take up any part time job at the moment. Just want to relax at least a week or 2 before searching. Have been glued to the computer these few nights on IRC chat channel. It's the latest craze where you can find lots of different people and some became fast friends too.

Another chat craze that is picking up my interest was sex chat with girls. But one can never be too sure if you're chatting with a real girl or not. There seems to be more guys than girls in the chat room. I did an unthinkable devious trick. I entered the wolves den and pretended to be a female chatter. Wolves (guys) flocked my personal chat box and flooded me with the famous a/s/l (age/sex/location) question. Some guys were obviously hardcore perverts and wanted cybersex. I'm not so interested at first because I don't want to be labeled a foxy slut. I was picky and one guy came to my interest as he firstly suggested lesbian encounter as I told him that I was not only interested in guys but girls as well. So, I pretended to be interested and the conversation continued. Until he was so convinced that he had a wonderful cybersex with me that he passed me his girl-friend’s number (the one that is interested in a lesbian encounter)!!!

A few days later, with stoned courage. I call up the number and she picked up the phone. What a sweet voice. We introduced each other. I said I was referred by her friend and she seems calm about it. In my mind, I'm thinking she's a girl that sleeps around? Anyway, our conversation continued and we ‘clicked’. Enjoying each other's companionship. Every night we will chat on the phone till one evening, the conversation became so hot, we literally had phone sex. Well, at least I was having a good time stroking my harden cock until pre-cum juicing out and her sweet seductive moaning thru the earpiece if the telephone. I explode my load. She says she got her orgasm climaxed as well. It was fantastic!

The next phone conversation was the meet up arrangement. She suggested it first. Coincidentally, she's actually from the same college where I just finished. She set a time to meet in the afternoon. Warned me that she's not a sweet young thing and that I might be disappointed. I assured her that with our good chemistry, physical appearance should not be a hindrance. So, ok. I will see you then. I will be driving in a small red car and you will be waiting at the main front gate of the college, right?

Our meet up time was 2pm. When I arrived at the college gates, a chubby girl in black jeans walked out. I smiled and she responded with a sweet smile. I got down from the car briefly and usher her to the co-driver’s seat, open the door for her. In the car, I was pretty nervous as it was my 6th time driving my mom’s car (I just got my driver’s license 3 months ago). We chat a little while in the car. Drove to a nearby shopping center and had drinks. I wasn't disappointed at all. She may be chubby but her curves were extremely sexy. I couldn't look away her bountiful boobs. She was wearing a V collar brown lacy top. I was actually wearing just a khaki shorts, white Tshirt and in sandals!

After finishing our drinks, we walked and did some window shopping a bit. By that time, my cock was like harden and bulging against my shorts. She noticed them when we're walking. I too could notice her nipples were rather pointy thru her top. Our eyes met and we both smiled as if we both had the same thought.

We left the shopping place and drove to a nearby alley along the shoplots. There were lots of cars parked. I guess it was a good idea as people were still in their offices working. Once parked, I advanced towards her. She responded in the same manner where both our lips met, locked and tongues lashing out on each other. I placed my right hand on her neck just below her ear to support her tilted head. After breaking free from our watery salivating kiss, I startled her by advancing my hands under her top and touching her hard left nipple. She gasp but loved my touch as she expressed with a lip bite that sort of expressing approval of satisfaction. She then reached out her hand and grab my harden arising cock that is bulging appearance on my shorts. She rubs and slowly forms a rod shape that is my cock. I lean towards her more said that I want to suck your nipples. She then remove her hand from rubbing my cock and seated straight leaning to the back seat. She pulls her top down revealing her very much big humongous boobs. I reach forward and plunge my mouth on her right nipple. Sucking and twirling my tongue on her nipple. She gasp out a soft light moan. That moan of hers alone twitched my cock in a throbbing state! After much sucking on both sides of her nipples, my mouth was already kinda tired. I pullback and asked her, you want to give my cock some love? She nodded with a devilish smile. My turn to lean back at the car seat. I unbuckle and unbutton my shorts, zip down and pulled my shorts till it drop on my ankle. My cock was already harden, straighten and loaded with pre-cum. She smiled and kissed the tip of my mushroom head before putting the whole head into her mouth. My first blowjob! It was a feeling that felt like a tingling feeling that rushes through your whole body. Your legs felt like you can't stand straight or in my case, can't even have the strength to press the pedals. As she leans forwards almost on fours, I manage to caress her breast that was dangling on the handbrake.

Suddenly, I felt like peeing?! What?! Oh no! I don't want to pee on her mouth while she's giving a wonderful feeling. But the shot was not pee… I actually cummed. I felt a gush of heated energy rushed from head to my cock and left! That's the power of shooting my load from a fantastic blowjob! Best thing is she swallowed my shot! She smiled and said my shot tasted funny. Really?! We kissed and I got to taste my own cum. Yeah. It does taste a little funny. But still it's not that bad! She went down and started to suck my cock again! Just when I was getting all warmed and hard again, a passerby walking towards the car. And I think the lady wanted to ask for directions. Because she was holding a piece of paper with an expression of lost. But when she noticed that I was actually enjoying a good blow job, she quickly turned around and fast walk the opposite direction. Ha!

By then, that little incident already made me more alert of the surrounding and didn't get too hard on my crotch area. She pulled back her top and adjusted her clothes properly. I too pulled back up my shorts and covered my half lumpy cock. She looked at the time and said that it's time for her to head home.

I drove her back to her house, and before she got down, we kissed a long one and I pinched her nipples again. Till our next meet. She told me that she will be waiting for my call later at night!

End of part one.

10 Things a Guy Can Do for a Girl Who Has Trouble Orgasming

Here is something which I should really read up good and learned it by heart! Something for you guys to read and girls? Well, the girls can read too and please give me your opinions as well. An extra tip is always encouraged.


1. First and most important: ACCEPT THAT SHE CAN'T ALWAYS CUM. Sometimes it just isn't going to happen and that's okay. Every few months I have a day where I spend an hour doggedly trying to get myself off with absolutely nothing to show for it. I'm horny, hydrated, relaxed, enjoying the same fantasies/porn, using techniques that usually guarantee an orgasm within 5-20 minutes, but it's just not happening. There's no rhyme or reason to it.

2. Ancillary to this: accept that SHE DOESN'T ALWAYS WANT TO CUM. As a woman with complicated sexual proclivities, I can attest to the fact that orgasms are pretty far down the list of my goals. I can get myself off most any time, but if I'm by myself, who exactly am I going to order to kneel? Whose ass am I going to spank? If I have to choose between spending the average 20 minutes it takes to get off getting my pussy played with or a complex scene in which I tie someone up and stick a vibrator up their ass, I'll often chose the latter. It's my choice and any man who wants to stay in my life better sure as shit respect it.

3. DON'T MAKE IT ABOUT YOU. JUST DON’T. Not getting her to cum doesn't make you a failure. It doesn't mean you're not a man or not a good lover. It doesn't mean she'll immediately boot you out on your ass. If you want to be a real man, let it be about her and don't get all butt hurt or insecure or accusatory if she doesn't get there. Eventually, she'll either start faking because it's easier or she'll dump your myopic, self-centered, entitled little ass in favor of someone whose ego doesn't need constant service.

4. TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF. Seriously, don't make her feel like she owes it to you to cum. Never say "but I want to see you cum, baby" or "I'm not going to cum until you do" or "I'll feel bad if you don't" or, worst, "is there something wrong with you?" Ironically, trying really hard to cum makes it even harder to cum. Unless, of course, these things are part of a dynamic you BOTH agree you enjoy.

5. JUST BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T NEED TO CUM, DOESN'T MEAN IT'S SUDDENLY ALL ABOUT YOUR ORGASM. I'm quite happy to have a disproportionate orgasm ratio. I enjoy not having the pressure always on and I still love watching my partners come apart. But some take this for granted. They start thinking that every time we have sex is just a race to their orgasm, the end. These people get punted.

6. WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING HERSELF OFF, SHE'S ALWAYS RIGHT. If she needs a vibrator, let her use it. And if you're threatened by it, yes, you are less of a man. If she needs you to stand on one foot and hop three times, do it. Seriously, whatever it is, no matter how weird or unsexy for you, go along with it. By all means, find new things to try, but if she knows what works, you have to respect it or risk her losing respect for you. Just because you're Don Juan, King of the Clitoris Delta, does not mean that you know her body better than she does. Also, you should really learn how to use that vibrator. It won’t bite. I promise.

7. DON'T STOP HER FROM MASTURBATING. Sometimes the quickest most satisfying way for her to cum is with herself. That might mean she gets you off and then masturbates after. It might be a sexy exhibitionist/voyeuristic thing. It might even be that you have to go watch TV in the living room while she has fun with the showerhead. Just think for second: how long can you go without an orgasm without getting a little testy? How long would you stay with someone who doesn't let you cum as much as you want?

8. IF YOU ARE GOING DOWN/FINGERING/ETC. AND SOMETHING IS REALLY WORKING FOR HER, DON'T FUCKING STOP. Seriously, don't stop. Don’t think you need to change it up. A lot of girls who have trouble coming with partners but can cum on their own (especially with toys) need steady, repeated motion in order to get there. Other girls really like the variety. But nothing sucks more than to almost be there and then be thwarted because your partner wants to fix something that’s not broken.

9. This is the hardest one, but, trust me, IF YOU’RE ABSOLUTELY SURE SHE FAKES, CALL HER ON IT. Faking orgasms is the vicious spiral that slowly leads to relationship death. Here’s how it goes: girl is self-conscious to be a difficult cum; girl initially fakes orgasms either to win guy over or because she doesn't think the relationship will last; relationship lasts long enough that girl starts wanting real orgasms; girl doesn't feel like she can demand them now that she lied; girl feels bitter for not getting orgasms; girl feels resentment towards guy for benefiting from a system that encourages her to lie for his pleasure; girl either dumps guy or stops faking; guy feels terrible/angry/bitter for either being dumped or lied to.

10. I lied. This is the hardest one. COMMUNICATE. I know it’s not very sexy to a lot of you, but there a quite a lot of us that get off on communication, especially when that communication is going to give us things that we want. Both you and she might be reluctant to talk about her pleasure. It’s a subject that is treated with an awful mix of taboo and titillation in our society, so it’s hard sometimes to wrap your head around the fact that not all sex talk is ‘dirty talk’ (whether you find wallowing in the dirt to be sexy is ultimately immaterial - it’s still a diversion from the frank talk that needs to happen). So, even if it’s not sexy, talk about her pleasure and what works for her. Ask her to give comment on your technique. Ask her to correct you when you're going down. Ask her if she wants to orgasm. If you're frustrated or neglected, explain why you're feeling frustrated instead of bottling it up. Tell her why you love eating her pussy. Tell her that you want to try something new. The more you open up to her and let her open up to you, the easier it will be for her to cum and the easier it will be for her to ask you to try new things.

If she doesn't know what she wants, don’t make fun. If she wants to experiment, don’t get so lost in fantasy that you don’t hear what she’s saying afterwards. And if she shows the awful scars of the shame that our society has taught her to feel about her own orgasm or lack thereof, be supportive and loving and don’t think about yourself one bit. Those men, those are the keepers.

"How To" Guide for Ladies WHILE Their Man is Dominating Them

Let's get to it:

• Sounds: Moan, whimper, gasp when your man is rough-handling you. Let him hear how turned on he's making you.
• Beg for it. Vocally: "Oh please" Him: "Please what?" You: "Please, I want you inside me/I want you to fuck me." Gasp/whimper out his name. Body language: show him how desperate you for him, move your hands across his back/chest, put your arms around his neck, press your body tight against his. When you feel his erection, glide your hand down the front of his pants and feel him through it, whisper in his ear: "I want thisso badly."
• Don't let him do all the work: When he's on top, wrap your legs around his back to bring him deeper. If you're not restrained by him, keep your hands on him, run it across his back/chest, through his hair (use light fingernails if he likes that sort of thing).
• Shy kisses: I like doing this when my guy is being particularly rough with me. I'll give him gentle kisses, on the mouth, on his cheek, along his neck and collarbone. This feels amazing when he gets more aggressive, it's like the more gentle I try to be with him, the more he'll assert his dominance as if saying "none of that bullshit, I call the shots." So I'll try to kiss him gently, but he'll just grab the back of my head and turn it into an aggressive kiss. Incredibly hot. It's very hard to explain the mentality behind this one, but it's like the more rough he is with me, the more I want to please as if to see if I can get him to be "gentler" when I really want the opposite ;) But it gets me into that nice submissive mindset that I really have no control.
• Let him dominate you while YOU are on top: Me and my guy like to do a lot of different positions during sex. Often times, he'll just say "Get on top" or "Ride me", and will shove me on him. He places his hands on my hips and controls me by thrusting upwards and shoving me down on his cock. Great position to lean over and moan/whimper in his ear while he's thrusting into you. Other times, he'll make me please him by being on top. "Ride me", then he puts his arms behind his head and smirks up at me, while I do all the work. At this point, show him how desperate you are to please him. This is the time when I really like doing the "shy" kisses cause I can lean over him and kiss him gently on the lips/neck.
• Being disobedient...on purpose: Sometimes it's no fun being the perfectly obedient little slave...how else am I going to get punished? ;) So often times I will disobey on purpose...I do this by:

1) In BDSM play: Taking too long to obey an order, outright refusing an order ("Please no"), purposely making a mistake (Him: "You're nothing but a dirty little cum-loving slut whose only good for being used. Repeat it." Me: "I'm nothing but a little cum-loving slut whose only good for being used." Him: "You forgot "dirty" <slap> <spank> "Tryagain."), not refering to him appropriately (i.e. "Master").

2) In "rape" play: Resisting - try to "fight" him off, struggle. Keep your legs closed tight, this will force him to FORCE them open. Use your hands to push him off - this will make him pin your wrists down. While I'm doing this, I like protesting: "No, please no". "I don't want to, please stop." Him: "Do you think I care what you want? Now shut up, you're here to do what I want."

• Blowjobs: Suck him off as if there is nothing else you would rather do. Moan while you have his cock buried in your mouth (yes this may be difficult - but is possible when you're just playing with the tip). Use your hands (assuming they are not tied up) and pull his waist to you as if you are desperate to get more of him into your mouth. Do what your guy likes in terms of body language - i.e. if he likes your eyes lowered, keep them lowered, look up only to coyly ask him if you're satisfying him, or if there's anything else you can do to please him.
• Beg to please him: "Please, I want to suck you off", "Please let me suck you off", "Please, will you cum in my mouth/face/chest/stomach/pussy/ass?"
• Remind him that he controls your orgasms: Again more begging. "Please let/make me cum." "I need to cum so badly, please master." "I need you to make me cum, please I'll do anything." While saying this, show how desperate you are, rub your wetness against his cock or fingers, spread your legs wide for him.
• Apologize when you're disobedient: Beg for forgiveness "I'm sorry master. I didn't mean to. I'll do whatever you want, please forgive me." "I won't disobey/forget/struggle next time. Please don't be angry." "I'm sorry master. Please punish me for disobeying. I will be/do better next time."
• Thank him: Thank him for giving you pleasure/reward. And for letting you please him "Thank you for letting me suck your cock." "Thank you for letting me swallow your cum."

After care. Many of these sessions can be mentally (not only physically) exhausting and draining. So please take care of your partner after - make sure she/he is okay, ask what things they DID NOT like (as well as things they did like), make sure you did not overstep your boundaries. Hug, kiss, hold, cuddle her/him, tell them you love them, etc, etc.

Original article here: http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/13w5cr/part_three_my_how_to_guide_for_ladies_while_their/

"How-To" Guide for Men on How To Dominate a Woman in Bed - Part Two

Now let's get things started ;)

• Take control of blowjobs. When receiving a blowjob, instead of letting her do all the work, "face fuck" her. Grab the side of her head and push her down onto your cock. For beginners, don't push too far down. For more hardcore individuals, push her down until it reaches the back of her throat. Pull out, look her in the eye and smile while stroking her cheek. Then ram your cock back down her throat. Repeat until satisfied. "You should see how hot/slutty you look with my cock down your throat." For subs, make her do this on her knees. If she closes her eyes or looks down, tug at her hair or grab her chin so she's looking at you: "Eyes open/Look up, I want to see that pretty face of yours as you suck me."
• Facials. "What a pretty face you have...I think I want to see it covered in my cum". "I'm going to cum all over that pretty face of yours." Once you've proceeded to unleash your load all over her face, smear some cum over her lips and get some on your fingers. Make her lick it off. Take a picture.
• Sex toys! This could honestly be a thread in itself. Toys for bondage (i.e. rope, handcuffs, tape, blindfolds), spanking (i.e. whips, paddles - though you can easily substitute with household items, things like rulers, the back of a hair brush, a cooking spoon, a belt, etc), vibrators, anal toys, dildos.
• Take control of her masturbation. Force her to touch herself but make it clear that she is NOT allowed to bring herself to orgasm. Get a remote controlled vibrator. Tie her up and use it on her - control the settings: bring her to the brink, then stop it. "How badly do you want to cum right now?" "Give me a good reason to let you come (let her stammer out some answer)...not good enough."
• Submission. Make her wear a collar. Tell her she can only move on her hands and knees unless you give her permission. Command her in all aspects (i.e. "I want your eyes lowered unless I say otherwise." "Look at me only when I speak to you." "I want you naked for the rest of the night, is that clear? Now strip") Make her confirm your dominance: After each command: "Do you understand me?" "Are you going to obey like a good little slave?" Make her thank you after performing certain tasks, this is especially fun in terms of punishment: "I want you to thank me every time I slap you, do you understand?" Reinforce your punishments "You know why you're being punished don't you?" (Make her give you the reason) "That's right, because you were a disobedient little bitch. Now are you going to do better next time?"
• More intense "rape" play: Shove her face down into a pillow while you take her from behind. Hold her down by firmly pressing your palm to her back, or twist her wrists behind her back. Pull on her hair (again while in doggy style).
• Slap her across the face (this was previously in the Light BDSM but many redditors indicated that it's more medium/heavy): Slap her face with your hand (or cock), alternate with tender cheek cupping between slaps. My SO tends to use slaps as punishment (aside from the usual spanking): slap "Don't disobey me again."slap.
• Choking (again was in light - should be here): Place your hands around her neck and squeeze lightly - never squeeze for too long, and make sure to constantly monitor her to ensure that she can breathe properly!! Please NEVER put direct pressure on the front of the throat (trachea area). Use light pressure with your fingers or thumb along the side. PLEASE PLEASE research breath play if you are interested in this - I cannot stress the importance of safety, there are MAJOR risks engaging in this activity and it is not something that should be experimented with without knowing how to go about it!!
• Make her clean you up after you cum: If you cum on your stomach, make her lick it up. "Make sure you lick it clean like a good slut, don't waste a single drop of cum." Or if you cum in her mouth: "Make sure you swallow every drop of cum I give you." Reward her with a kiss or glide a finger against her lips once she's swallowed: "Good girl." "You're such a cum-loving little whore." Lastly, demand that she cleans your cock after she "made a mess by dripping her pussy juices all over it." (Not a good idea after anal play for obvious reasons - instead, wipe your cock across her breasts/stomach)

Edit: Adding one thing to spice it up even when you're NOT in the bedroom.

• Leave some nice hickies on her body. "I'm going to mark you so you remember who you/this body belongs to."
• If you had sex with her panties on (refer to Part One), after you're done, pull up her panties tight into her crotch and run your fingers down the outline of her slit. Tell her she's going to wear the panties for the rest of the day so she can remember what a dirty/good little slut she's been. Tell her you WILL BE checking that she obeyed when you see her later tonight, and if you found out that she didn't keep them on, you will be punishing her. Make sure you do this when you/she gets home from work. Praise her for being such an obedient girl when you see that she still has them on.

Edit 2: Very, very important point from exilius in terms of after care. Many of these sessions can be mentally (not only physically) exhausting and draining. So please take care of your girl after - make sure she's okay, ask what things she DID NOT like (as well as things she did like), make sure you did not overstep your boundaries. Hug her, kiss her, hold her, cuddle her, tell her you love her, tell her how lucky you feel that she trusts you enough with taking control, etc, etc.

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"How-To" Guide for Men on How To Dominate a Woman in Bed - Part One

"Gentle" Dominating

• Push her against the wall/bed/floor/table. Hold down her wrists (above her head, behind her back, by her sides). Lean your weight against her to create the feeling like you are dominating her body. Push your knee between her legs and roughly spread them wide. "Spread wide for me, sweetheart."
• Manhandle her. Put your hands all over her as if you can't get enough. Grab her breasts, squeeze her ass. Worship her. "God I love this hot/tight ass of yours". "This hot/tight ass of yours is all mine tonight." "You have the hottest/tightest little body ever." "Your body was made to be fucked by me."
• Kiss her like you need it to breathe. Grab her chin and pull her mouth to yours, plunge your tongue in her mouth.
• Run your fingers through her hair and pull gently. Tug her hair so that it forces her to look up at you, give her a sexy smirk, and kiss her roughly.
• Grind your hips against her, let her feel your arousal pressed against her. "Can you feel how hard you make me?" "Fuck, you make me so hard." "I can't wait to shove this into that sweet pussy of yours." "God I need/want to be inside of you."

Getting more aggressive...

• Light scratching: Use your fingernails and scratch along her back or lightly dig your nails into her ass.
• Spanking: Slap her ass. Mix it up, don't just spank her a billion times: spank, rub it with the palm of your hand, grip it with your hand, slap it, etc. "I fucking love your tight little ass". "This beautiful ass is all mine...in fact I think I should leave a mark so you'll remember who it belongs to slap".
• Biting: Bite her nipples, alternate with licking and swirling your tongue around the nipple.
• Orgasm Denial: "Do you want to cum?", force her to say yes, then "I want to hear you beg for it." She begs. "Louder". She begs some more. "Good girl..." Proceed to make her come. Or tease her some more... "No I don't think I'll let you just yet..."
• Forced Orgasms: "I want you to cum NOW." "Come for me, baby." Proceed to make her cum after you say these things. After you've made her come, "Have you had enough?...I don't think you have. I want you to come again for me." "I want to feel you soak my fingers/cock/tongue with your delicious juices". "I fucking love making you come, I think I want to do it again..." Make her cum again.
• Have sex with clothes on. Ideal if she's wearing a dress/skirt - hike up her dress and fuck her like that. If she has pants, rip them off roughly. Move her panties aside (but don't take them off!) and screw her like that. "Look how wet you're making your panties...what a dirty little slut you are."
• Make her pleasure you. Force her on her knees and suck you off. "Get on your knees now." "You're going to suck me until I'm satisfied." "Suck me with that talented little mouth of yours."

"Rape"/Light BDSM - So please, please tread carefully with this section, by "rape" I mean CONSENSUAL non-consent, if at any time she says the safe word, STOP IMMEDIATELY. Pay attention to her body language - if it appears like she is not enjoying something or starting to hesitate, STOP IMMEDIATELY, ask her if everything is okay, MAKE SURE THINGS ARE ACTUALLY OKAY. Again, please DO NOT continue if you have any doubts whatsoever. Constantly monitor her and your actions throughout this - remember your boundaries, STICK TO THEM. If you are interested in these activities, find resources and do your research, consult BDSM subreddits. Please, please play safe!!

• Gagging: Gag her with a piece of cloth, my personal favorite is when my boyfriend fucks me with my panties on, then takes them off, and shoves them in my mouth. (Because your mouth will be gagged, you must have a "safe gesture" as a sign to stop if things get too much.)
• Bondage: Buy rope, tape, handcuffs, four-poster bed restraints, etc. OR improvise and substitute with a scarf or belt. Tie up her wrists behind her back (then force her to suck you off), tie her to the bed frame and tease her. Safety point: NEVER leave someone tied up alone in a room (if you need to leave to go to the bathroom or anything like that, make sure you can hear her if she calls out to you. NEVER LEAVE SOMEONE GAGGED AND TIED UP.).
• Degrade her. Call her a dirty little slut/whore/cunt/bitch. "The only thing you're good for is to be fucked/satisfying me." Make her degrade herself "What are you?" "What are you good for?" "You're my slutty little whore. Say it." If she hesitates, punish her with a slap/spank. "Not fast/quick enough. Let's try again. (Repeat the question/your demand)." If you're satisfied, "Good girl" or "That's better." If not satisfied, punish her until she gets it right. Make her call you "Sir" or "Master". Punish her every time she forgets to refer to you as that.
• In contrast to degradation (as pointed out by you guys!): Praise her for satisfying you so well and beingyour "good little girl/slave". Tell her how pleased you are with her behavior and how good she's pleased you. Reward her.

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The Pussy-Licking-Guide for evolved people in 15 magical steps

#1: Tell her she is beautiful and mean it.

Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you’ve got the world’s most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she’s going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it’s beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs.

#2 Stop and appreciate her unique flower

Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn’t it? There is nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I’ve seen plenty of them. They come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside like a little girl’s cunnie and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz. Appreciate your woman’s unique qualities and tell her what makes her special.

#3 Women are more verbal: Talk to her beautiful pussy

Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you’re petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it.

#4 Lick her outer lips, inner lips and find her clit

Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of her pussy up until you can find her clit. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have different sized cocks. It doesn’t mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin.

#5 Whenever you touch a woman’s pussy, make sure your finger is wet

Whenever you touch a woman’s pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn’t have any juices of it’s own and it’s extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it’s dry and that hurts. But you don’t want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled.

#6 Tease her & approach her pussy slowly

Approach her pussy slowly. Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate it.

#7 Play with her

Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her. After you’ve done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she’s straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit.

#8 Kiss her, gently, then harder

Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you’re about to eat must be done gently.

#9 Tongue-fuck her

Tongue-fuck her. This feels divine. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit. Check it out. See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of it’s covering. If so, lick it. If you can’t see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up the top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience it’s presence. But even if you can’t feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press into her skin.

#10 Work her tip of the iceberg

Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder. When you sense she’s getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth.

Start to suck gently and watch your lady’s face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don’t fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don’t let go. That’s what she’ll be saying too: ‘Don’t stop. Don’t ever stop!’

There’s a reason for that, most men stop too soon. Just like with cock sucking, this is something worth learning about and worth learning to do well. I know a man who’s a lousy fuck, simply lousy, but he can eat pussy like nobody I know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are falling all over him.

#11 Finger-fuck her with TWO fingers

But back to your pussy eating session…There’s another thing you can do to intensify your woman’s pleasure. You can finger-fuck her while she’s enjoying your clit-licking talents. Before, during or after. She’ll really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against when you’re fucking her. Well, since your cock is pretty far away from your mouth, your fingers will have to do the fucking.

Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and therefore can’t get deep enough. Make sure they’re wet so you don’t irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing.

She’ll let you know what to do. If you’re sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you’re giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she’s getting high on this. If there’s any doubt, check her out for symptoms.

#12 Get to know her orgasmic symptoms to become even better

Each woman is unique.

You may have one who’s nipples get hard when she’s excitedor only when she’s having an orgasm.Your girl might flush red orbegin to tremble.

Get to know her symptoms and you’ll be a more sensitive lover.

#13 Don’t let go of her clit when she starts to orgasm – The Multi-Orgasmic Woman

When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven’s sakes, don’t let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now.

If you play your cards right, you’ll get some multiple orgasms this way. A woman stays excited for a full hour after she’s had an orgasm. Do you realize the full impact of that information? The potential? One woman was clocked at 56 orgasms at one sitting. Do you know what effect you would have on a woman you gave 56 orgasms to? She’d be yours as long as you wanted her.

#14 The cherry on the cake

Some women like to have their man rub and enter their anal section with their finger while they are being eaten out!

#15 After the orgasmic wave: Keep making love to her quietly

The last advice I have for you is this:

After you’ve made her come, made her your slave by giving her the best head she’s ever had, don’t leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she’s come all the way down. A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex.

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